partners

[whitewabbit2001]

ok peeps its got to be asked, how and when did u meet ur partner or loved one and when did u tell them about ur allergy/intolerance????:p

[Kamagrian]

ok peeps its got to be asked, how and when did u meet ur partner or loved one and when did u tell them about ur allergy/intolerance????:pMatt and I met at a friend's birthday party and immediately became good friends - more than that came later. My intolerance is due to a pancreatic problem which developed while we were together, so he's known about it all along. :)

Hope this finds everyone having a fantastic Christmas.

Gill x

[matt]

met her at my sisters wedding. my problems didn't start until two years later then she decided to turf me out 2 1/2 years ago. so all on my lonesome now.:(
anyone know any desperate women down on the south coast??:o

[Pam]

Met my other half about 20 years ago in a nightclub - he was a friend of a friend. We've been married 16 years now and it was only when our daughter became milk intolerant and I spoke to an anti-milk nutritionist that I went the same way. Hubby thought it was all a load of nonsense but he humours me.

[goose]

Well me and my partner met, 8 years ago, in a night club and been inseperatble since.
my problems started when i was seven which is a long story and i wont bore anyone, but ibs was only noticed this year so my partner knows what going on, and hes fantastic, sometimes bored with me moaning all the time but he understands.:rolleyes:

[Copper]

I met my husband at work. In those days there were social events organised by a few people in the department. I was a quiet shy thing and I don't know why I allowed myself to be dragged into a bowls competition (I do mean bowls on the grass). They tried to have men versus women and my name was drawn out of a hat to play a bloke I had never heard of despite working on the floor below me.

My intolerances have crept in since we have married and he just puts up with it :) We have been married for 28 years - a life sentence. :lol2:

[Nic]

Well, we met at university and have been together since (a rather scary 7 1/2 years). I always knew dairy made my eczema worse, and he's encouraged me to eat less and less, as he finds that my itching and scratching keeps him awake at night! To be serious, he's always been very helpful and supportive, and is the only person (aside from other dairy allergy sufferers) who I trust to order for me in a restaurant, go shopping etc.

Nic

[whitewabbit2001]

im dating at the moment and its hard when u go on dates to explain and u feel a freak....

[linny]

I met Ian 19 years ago, been married for 13 years. Only found out I was dairy intolerant 18 months ago. Partly due to trying to reduce the psoriatic arthritis symptoms I suffer. Ian is great he hunts for new foods and cooks quite a lot of the time - I'd live on snacks otherwise! 9 year old daughter is great too - knows what I can and can't eat.

They found me lots of sweeties for Christmas this year!:)

[Lan]

Hi there.

I'm single at present, but I met Steve in a nightclub and he was very supportive of my allergies. I am normally upfront and everytime I met a guy explained the problems, some run away and those men weren't worth my time.

I'd advise to tell them when you feel ready to and the time seems right.

Lan. :confused::confused::confused:

[Steve]

Hi there.

I'm single at present, but I met Steve in a nightclub and he was very supportive of my allergies. I am normally upfront and everytime I met a guy explained the problems, some run away and those men weren't worth my time.

I'd advise to tell them when you feel ready to and the time seems right.

Lan. :confused::confused::confused:

I would also like to mention that second time we met up i give her a lot of dairy free recipies and also not long after that helped her find a dairy free cheese. Never seen anyone so excied about cheese as that :D

[whitewabbit2001]

bless :rolleyes:

well i am finding it hard finding mr right, so i hope he understand allergies when i meet him,

[matt]

you old smoothy steve!!!

finding mr right? just about as easy as finding miss right i've given up for now!!:(

[Pen]

well i am finding it hard finding mr right, so i hope he understand allergies when i meet him
finding mr right? just about as easy as finding miss right i've given up for now!!:(
Those people have a habit of turning up just when you least expect them, so don't despair. There are probably things you can do to speed up the process, like:

Putting an ad in the 'relationships' section of your local paper (and/or local health magazine, if you have such a thing), mentioning your food restrictions. You never know, there may be others out there in a similar boat thinking that they are alone and will never find someone who understands their food intolerances/allergies. [I have first-hand experience in finding a partner by placing an ad in the local paper, although at the time, neither of us had the food restrictions that we each currently have.]
Start a group for people with food intolerances, allergies and special diets. Put up notices in local shop windows, doctor's surgeries, hospitals, health food stores, and an ad in your local newspaper. You could also leave some flyers for prospective attendees to take home. You could speak with the doctors and dieticians, asking them to give details of your group to their new patients. Maybe arrange for the group to meet up once a month to start with, and then more frequently if numbers increase. To save costs, the meet-ups could be held in 'members'' homes on a rotation basis. Evening meetings would allow more people to attend.
Join a yoga or Tai Chi class. There are often a higher percentage of people who care about what they eat (maybe vegetarian or vegan, and they would understand the importance of sticking to their chosen diet) in that type of practice.

[rebecca c]

Mike and I met 20 years ago when I was just 17. he was a college friend of my sisters.

He is supportive of my allergies and proud of the way I have got myself largely better and is happy to do the food shopping and some of the cooking.

Most people I know are quite understanding but I really believe the good people of Brighton are a bit more open minded than most folk are.

[matt]

Most people I know are quite understanding but I really believe the good people of Brighton are a bit more open minded than most folk are.


now there's the understatement of the year!!!:lol2:

[whitewabbit2001]

great news... i have met someone,,, bad news... im going out for his bday meal soon :( what am i going to eat!!!!

[Lan]

Hi there,

Glad to hear that you have met someone. Now no panicking about what you'll eat. Where are you going for a meal, pub, restaurant etc?

Most places these days seem to do steak/gammon and chips/jacket potato, which is dairy free. Just don't panic and ask the staff if they can cater and have any lists of dairy free foods. These places are pretty discreet and will not cause a fuss. Just avoid all sauces and anything in batter.

Does he know that you have food allergies? If not, telling him may take the pressure off you.

Good luck anyway, hope all goes well and let us know.

Lan. :lol2::lol2::lol2:

[matt]

good news, like lan said don't panic, let him know and phone the palce first to let them know. the last thing they need is for someone to turn up cold on a busy night. pre warned means they can plan.:)

[linny]

I'm off to a 60th Birthday meal at a restaurant this weekend and I'm going to phone beforehand to check things like gravy, some has lactose in.

How about going for a starter of melon, then steak, potatoes and salad and a fruit dessert. It may be worth taking a small amount of milk for the coffee if you're like me and don't like it black. I'm sure he wouldn't mind you using your soya milk. Have fun!!;)

[goose]

Congrats on the new man, like the others i would find out where you are going and phone first to plan your menu, and let him knoe about your intolerences, it prob wont even bother him.

[whitewabbit2001]

ive told him im allergic to dairy and lactose so lets see what happens, ive been really off my food tho since my last hospital admission:angry: